Getting Back in Touch
Still-life pumpkin 11/21/13 By Gloria M. Matthews (First still-life in six years) |
This past week was the first full week I felt good. My stomach issues still remind subtle but under control. As I started to feel better with each passing day, I got my passion and determination back to draw, to paint, to write, and to get creative again. I don't know what it is, but for the last six years I've been itching to be the creative person I once was so many years ago. I studied art for years but never majored in it for it was something I could never have under the microscope of "grades". I believed as artists we are storytellers through our works.
I posted my most recent work on to my FB page and for those who knew me in my younger years have remembered I used to have my work displayed in local libraries and galleries as part of my program. I even have a lovely image of a baby robin sitting on a frozen icicle cherry branch done in pen and ink. Yes, I used those lovely pens that you would dip into the liquid ink gently controlling the amount of ink you needed. I loved pencil, pen and ink and water colors. I did experiment with oil pastel and chalk but never came to like those mediums. So most of my work is usually realistic or also known as still-life and abstract.
I have been out of touch with myself for a long time now. Yes, I've been keeping busy trying to stay sane and keep up with life as an adult and a single parent. However, now as my son is getting older, he is able to do more and more for himself but yes, I do help him along the way. Parenting never stops. I don't consider myself a helicopter parent or one of those hovering parent that can be so suffocating. (I speak from personal experience). My son is a bright young boy and I don't make him do what I ask him, I give him a choice in the matter. Giving him the opportunity to not only learn how to think about the choices he has but to think for himself and to decide for himself how he wants to approach the task at hand. When he is ready, he does what I ask him but in his own way. The goal is as long as it gets done, besides he is only five years old and already considered a big "out-of-the-box" thinker, which is what I encourage because it makes learning that much easier to be absorbed in my opinion. I was happy to hear how he is being noted for his WILD imagination and creativity. We are a family of artists and creativity and wild imaginations are a must!
"Exploring Spirituality and Life" By Gloria M. Matthews 2011 |
I feel freer and more relieved. I feel like I'm embarking on this new journey and getting back in-touch with
Unfinished work --- |
Over the last few years through my experience as a single deaf mother, I have dealt with critics on a personal level and to be honest I am not a fan of being "attacked" or "pushed" over because I am a "new mother" or "new" to motherhood. Well newsflash, I was the primary caregiver in my family. I changed diapers, feed, burped and everything a mother would do except as an older sister. Yes, as the oldest you tend to become the "second mom" in the household. I also worked with newborns to teens, so yes, I am aware of issues affecting young children and families. However, if I do things differently and not like how everyone normally deals, hey it is my life and I will deal with my own issues in my own way only I know what works and what doesn't. My advice is this, really stop assuming every situation that "sounds similar" to many are to be treated the same in respect. No one situation is entirely similar and people involved are not exactly the same. What I learned was this, don't give people the ability to have a say in your affairs unless they are family or close friends who respect your wishes. I don't say anything to anyone about their situation unless they ask me for my opinion and they know I will be detailed about it and let them know the choice is theirs at the end. I am not them and not everything is cookie cutter easy. I do tell them I won't judge them because it is not my place. I do have enough personal and volunteer experience to qualify me to fill in as a social worker or even a counselor, but don't have it on paper.
All the things I have endured has made me not only a better version of myself but a stronger version. I am still a work in progress, but I am just simply human and I will admit I am nowhere near perfect. I make mistakes just like everyone else does and sometimes I trip and fall just like everyone else. I do think a lot because in a world of silence you get used to hearing your thoughts LOUD and CLEAR. In a world of silence you can get lost in daydreaming and dreams. In the world of silence imagination does run WILD. So somehow all of that has to come "bursting" out be it in words or visuals or musical.
"Reaching Out" By Gloria M. Matthews 2008 |
So I am slowly coming back to being "me" again and it is starting to feel real good again! When they say life happens, life really does happen. It can pull us away from what we used to do for a while until things get settled down. There is no telling how long one will be out of commission in certain areas of their life, but life must be dealt with first. As hard as it is to leave things sitting on the back-burner, just know once something becomes a part of you, a part of who you really are, you don't really lose it completely. You just gotta rebuild those skills back up and in due time it'll start flowing back to you. Just don't force it, let it come to you. If you have people pushing you, simply tell them that you rather take your time and that you are not here on this earth to be exploited or to please others. We do have a purpose but it must bloom on God's timing not ours. In other words just be patience with life overall. Nothing happens overnight. Be good to yourself and love yourself for who you are today. You can always grow into a better version of yourself, just be sure not to look down on those who are trying to do the same. Peace.
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